You’ve created a lovely sensual atmosphere, talked about safety, negotiated what you’re each comfortable with, and acclimated yourself with your sensation play tools.
Now start to play with some of the sensations these tools bring, using your skills and imagination!
There’s a lot to be said about the sensations your body receives once blindfolded. The following are some ideas on what to play with and then how to utilize some of them in scene to keep the flow…
Wax (candle, paraffin, not beeswax – it gets too hot!)
Hot Water (use eyedropper)
The following are for external use only:
Hand Warmers For Skiing
Once again, external use only:
Polar Lotion/Icy Hot
Canned Air Spray
Listerine or other mouth strips
Cinnamon Altoids for oral sex
Knife (blunt side only please!)
Fur, (mitts, bits from coats: rabbit, mink, ermine)
Silicone basting brushes
Cornstarch (drop in plops)
(be careful about drawing blood unless single person use)
Metal hair brushes
Brush (bath brushes, hair brushes, paint brushes)
Tingler (copper head massager)
Glass, (made for body use)
Metal, especially stainless steel
Plastic Vise Grips
Practice chopsticks, (also good for percussion)
Cupping Sets, (made for sensual use or acupuncture)
Disposable Electric Toothbrushes
Hitachi Magic Wand: with attachments
Hands ~ fists, open palms
Rubber bands (stingy)
Practice or regular chopsticks
Cinnamon (exotic awakening)
Needless to say, external use only:
Flavored Lip Gloss
“Hot sex” substances may take up to 5 minutes for the effects of a given “dose” to be fully felt, so take your time about adding more. One dose is usually felt for about 20 minutes, but this can vary considerably from person to person and from product to product. Such substances applied to the scrotum are usually felt sooner and feel hotter than the same substance applied to the penis. Be careful about combining these substances with abrasion. Skin that has been scraped, such as by fingernails, will be considerably less able to tolerate such play.
It’s easy to add more of whatever substance you’re using, but it’s very difficult to remove what you’ve already applied. If you do have a “hot sex overdose”, you can usually wash it off by using cold running water and lots of soap. Applying large amounts of shampoo and then washing it off works especially well. Liberal amounts of witch hazel can also cool things down, as can generous amounts of petroleum jelly or an oil-based cream.
As you can see, “hot sex” is one of the more serious tricks, with a steeper learning curve than most. Starting lightly, like using cough drops or mints while performing oral, and if your partner enjoys that sensation perhaps moving onto a frugal application of menthol rub on the genitals, can add extraordinary sensations to your scene.
Try using a vibrator on various parts of your genitals ~ many guys enjoy the vibration on their penis (particularly on the underside just below the head if circumcised), their perineum, (the place between the shaft of the penis and the anus), and their anus. If it’s her vibrator you’re using, or if you want to use it on someone else later, cover it carefully with a condom, rubber glove, or plastic wrap, or put plastic wrap over the part of you that you’re stimulating.
Hold a vibrator against the base of his cock while performing fellatio. Take his penis into your mouth, then apply a vibrator to your cheek. Move the vibrator sensuously from one cheek to the other. Touch it to your lips. Apply it to the point of your chin. Turn your head so that the head of his penis makes a bulge in one of your cheeks and apply the vibrator to that bulge.
Touch a small, battery operated vibrator to the underside of your tongue during oral sex, thus turning your tongue into a vibrating sex toy.
Take a sip of champagne or a soft drink, hold it in your mouth, and insert his penis, (this can be very intense). Now touch a vibrator to your cheek and notice his reaction.
Put an ice cube (one with no sharp edges or corners) in your hand, and apply your hand to his well-lubricated penis. Now touch a vibrator to the base of his penis while you masturbate him.
Encircle the top of his scrotum with your thumb and forefinger. Squeeze this ring together until it’s snug and his testicles are “trapped” below it, then slowly pull down until the skin of his scrotum is pulled tight over his testicles. Now apply your vibrator to the tight-skinned sack.
Many men find wonderful surprises when a vibrator hums up against the frenulum, which is the inverted “V” area on the underneath side of the head of the penis. This is a “must try” for men who insist vibrators have no erotic effect on them.
Another exciting area for many women and men is from immediately behind the genitals to near the bottom of the spine. Many nerve endings here come alive during sexual arousal. As you slide your vibrator along this area, be careful not to move microorganisms from the anus to the vagina or to the penis. Another option is to vibrate through a small towel that remains stationary on the pelvic floor. Also, be cautious with vibrators on scrotums. With some types of vibrators, it might be very painful.
In your own erotic investigations, you may have found other exciting places. Play with them too. And don’t forget between the toes.
Good Vibrations Hug ~ Fully clothed and standing up, invite your lover to share a hug. Nestle your turned-on vibrator into a comfortable position between your pubic areas. Then hug for five minutes. Don’t let go. Don’t fall down. And make certain there aren’t any urgent appointments following this hug ~ you would probably be late.
Brush Off ~ A large soft brush can create a thrilling sensation. You can buy paint brushes from an art supply store, or makeup brushes or shaving brushes from the drugstore. The brush can be used for delightful teasing as well as to bring your partner to orgasm (use it without lube.) Hold her vaginal lips open with one hand and use the brush on the inside of her outer lips, on her inner lips (using both back and forth and up and down motions), and on her clit (top to bottom may work especially well).
Some women can orgasm by having a vibrator held firmly against the bottoms of their feet.
Try combining a vibrator with a vaginal speculum. Try inserting the speculum, opening it a bit, and holding a vibrator against the base. If that gets a promising reaction, you can try opening it a bit more, then a bit more, so you’re putting tension against the walls of the vagina. You may get a truly spectacular reaction.
Playing Chopsticks ~ combine a long, narrow, rigid implement such as a chopstick with a strong vibrator to vibrate into tiny little places, or to sharply localize the vibration to a larger place. Hold the chopstick loosely in one hand with its tip against the part you want to stimulate, then touch the vibrator to its base.
Variant On Bath Mitts ~ especially the ones with one smooth side and one textured side, are wonderful for slowly stimulating and soothing your partner’s skin. Some mitts have a little “pocket” designed for slipping a bar of soap in while showering. Placing a few marbles in that pocket can create a wonderful sensation.
The above tips and tricks are obviously only the tip of the iceberg. Your imagination is your best friend when it comes to erotic play.
Once you know how to use lubes, creams, and sharp things safely, you will be able to enjoy all that you and your partner can imagine together!