VISUALIZE YOUR LAST SEXUAL EXPERIENCE. WAS IT INTENSE AND EXCITING? DOES IT MAKE YOU TINGLE WITH DELIGHT AT THE MERE THOUGHT?

 Even in the best relationships, sex can become routine. If yours has become as exciting as watching paint dry, it might be time to expand your repertoire. The following suggestions are based on our book – Bondassage: Kinky Erotic Massage Tips For Lovers, written by Jaeleen Bennis and Eve Minax.

“What the heck is Bondassage?”

Bondassage can be best described as full body erotic massage, combined with sensory deprivation, light restraint, rhythmic body percussion (slow luxurious flogging or spanking) and sensation play. The following are a few basic ingredients to spice up your session.

Temperature
No one can fully enjoy sex if they are physically uncomfortable and that’s why room temperature is key. A warm room around 75 degrees is preferred for maximum comfort.

Warm Massage Oil/Cream/Lotion
Warm the oil or cream by placing it a waterproof container of hot water. Word of caution: Do not microwave unless you want a melted mess on your hands.

Blindfolds
Sleep masks are relatively inexpensive. Consider the Mindfold Sleep and Relaxation Eye Mask, specifically designed so the user can keep their eyes open. Be mindful some people don’t realize how claustrophobic they are until they’re blindfolded, so please respect your partners boundaries.

Satin or silk pillowcase
The higher the thread count the better. Gently drape the pillowcase up your partner’s legs and in between the inner thighs. Slowly traipse the pillowcase over the belly and chest areas. The key is slow movements ~ as a matter of fact, the slower you go, the larger the reaction.

Comb
For dragging up the leg, around the belly and down the arms. Of course practically everyone appreciates a great scalp massage, so go for it.

Disposable vibrating electric toothbrush
Gently brush on and around the nipples. If you don’t want to use the electric variety a standard toothbrush will do. Consider varying between soft, medium and hard bristles for a little extra variety.

Spatula
Yes, the same one used for Saturday morning flapjacks can now be used to warm butt cheeks. For greater intensity focus on one cheek at time – start slow and gradually build. Just promise you’ll pick up another one for breakfast.

Mouthwash Breath Strips
Pop one in your mouth before suckling your lovers nipples. The cool menthol sensation will leave them wondering what the heck you’re using (plus your breath will be minty fresh). Another option is Altoids.

Gloves
Whether warm and woolly, satin, latex, or furry – use them as a tantalizing brush across your partners body.

For more information pick up the book.